Q. Is it permissible for a man to perform oral sex on his wife and for the wife to do the same for her husband?
A. Some scholars have allowed oral sex between the husband and wife, but many have spoken against it. These scholars have pointed to the fact that the behaviour in oral sex is nothing less than that of animals, and man, who has been elevated and honored by Allah should not degrade himself to this limit. The pleasure of foreplay and sexual relations have already been allowed, which in reality, is the driving force behind marriage. Hence, there is no need for a believer to adopt the ways of the unbelievers for the gratification of his sexual desires. In Islam, self control is required in all acts, including that of fulfilling ones sensual passions. We see that, even in the case where one is legally married to a woman, he is prohibited from having sexual intercourse with her during her monthly courses, and in her bleeding after delivery. In a similar manner, although the husband is allowed to enjoy himself with his wife, he is strictly prohibited from anal intercourse. All these laws in Islam shows that even in the state of excitement and enjoyment, one is required to observe self control. Hence, while enjoying oneself with the spouse, one should not adopt the conduct of unbelievers like that of oral sex.
And Allah knows best.
Mufti Waseem Khan