Category Archives: Child Upbringing

Is face painting for kids permissible?

السلام  عليكم

Is face painting for kids permissible, for example at kids fun days or sports days? Is it permissible for a female to do kids face painting?
جزاك الله خيرا

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

The majority of Scholars have stated that face-painting for kids is not permissible even though it is done for fun or sports day. This is a type of disfiguring and disguising of the face which is not allowed in Islam.

It will also not be permissible for a female to do kids face-painting.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

15/5/17.

Is Sofia/Saufia an Islamic name?

I would like to find out if the name sofia/saufia is a good islamic name? I found it on a muslim baby name website but i would like to make sure.

Assalaamu Alaikum,

The word Sofia or Sufiya is spelt in Arabic with the letter (ص) and is written as صوفية (Sofiya). This word means ‘Sufi’ or Islamic Mysticism, and is not one that is put as a person’s name. It is sometimes given as a title or name used for a person who follows a Sufi order, but is not normally given as an official name to a person.

A similar name is Safiya, spelt in Arabic as صفية which means pure. Another name is Saafiya spelt in Arabic as صافية which means virtuous.

As for the word ‘Sofia’ which has the meaning of ‘beautiful’ as mentioned in some books on Islamic baby names, this is not from an Arabic origin. It is stated that the origin of this name is Spanish. If you want to put this name for the baby, then you should know that it is a name for a female, and that it has no Arabic origin. Since, the meaning is good, you can use it if you wish.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

15/5/17.

How should one choose a name for a child?

Assalaamu Alaikum, I’m have a bit of difficulty name my son, and my husband left the main name decision up to me. Is there any specific way I go about this? Also, should I trust the internet for the authenticity of the names while doing so?

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

With respect to the naming of a child, the Prophet (S.A.S) advised parents to give good names to their children.

About this, he said, ‘You shall be called on the Day of Judgement by your names and the names of your father. Therefore, keep good names.’ (Abdu Dawood, from the narration of Abu Darda (R.A).

As such, parents should name their children with good, lovely and meaningful names. They must not give them such names that might be a means of ridicule to them or have a meaning which is not good. The Prophet (S.A.S) used to change the names of people that were derogatory, and which belittled those who had such names. (Tirmidhi)

It is narrated that the name of one of daughters of Umar (R.A) was Aasiyah (with Ain, which means disobedient). The Prophet (S.A.S) changed her name to Jameelah, which means good/beautiful. (Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah from the narration of Abdullah Ibn Umar R.A).Besides this, the Prophet (S.A.S) changed many names that had bad meanings. (Abu Dawood).

Children should also not be given names that indicate to an ill omen or bad character. If such names are given, then the meaning of the names will have an effect on the child. Regarding this, it is narrated that the grandfather of Sa’eed Ibn Al Mussayyib presented himself to the Prophet (S.A.S) and was asked what his name was. He replied, ‘Hazan’ (meaning hard, surliness). Upon this, the Prophet (S.A.S) said, ‘Your name is ‘Sahl’ (easy, soft). (That is, he should change the name given from Hazan to Sahl since Hazan indicated to a characteristic that was not good for a believer.)

The grandfather of Saeed Ibn Al Mussayyib replied, ‘How can I change the name given to me by my father?’ Based on this (where the grandfather of the great Tabi’ee scholar Saeed Ibn Al Mussayyib did not change his name from hazan to Sahl), Saee’d himself said, ‘From then on hardness of character was found among us.’ (Sahih Al Bukhari, from the narration of Saeed Ibn Al Mussayyib).

Parents must also refrain from naming their children with such names that are fixed and specifically used for Allah. For example, names such as Ahad, Samad, Khaliq, Razzaq etc. must not be used to name children. However, these names can be used attached with the word Abdul and given to the child. For example, Abdul Ahad, Abdul Khaliq etc. can be used.

When naming children, parents must not select names signifying servitude to others besides Allah. For example, names like Abdul Uzaa, (servant of Uzaa); Abdul Kabaa (servant of the Kabaa), Abdun Nabi (servant of a prophet) etc. must not be used to name children.

The Prophet (S.A.S) encouraged the parents to give their children meaningful names. In one narration, it is recorded that the Prophet (S.A.S) said, ‘Name your children with the names of the prophets, and the most beloved names to Allah are Abdullah and Abdur Rahman. (Abu Dawood; An Nasaa’i).

And Allah knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

1/5/17.

Is it permissible to do Kendo Martial Arts?

Assalaamu Alaikum,

My son is 12 years old and is a practicing Muslim. He is also an accomplished martial artist and one of the country’s best junior athletes. He has won the Point Kickboxing Association of Trinidad and Tobago Athlete of the year for 3 consecutive years and is currently being trained to turn professional. My concern is that he was invited to an interview  for training by the National Kendo team of Trinidad and Tobago. Before I accept this prestigious offer I would like to know if it is permissible for him to do this sport. This is a great opportunity for him and for Muslim Youths in the country but his religion comes first and this sport involves some bowing. Can you please review this matter urgently? Is Kendo permissible for Muslims?

In Kendo or any Japanese Martial arts, one is required to bow. In fact, there are two bows, one is done at the start and the other is done at the end. This bowing (in Kendo) is sometimes done in the standing posture or the sitting posture and is done on all occasions. It is done to one’s opponent; to one’s teacher and to any other person of a higher rank. Although it has been stated that this bow is done to show respect to the other person, it will still be prohibited in Islam.

In this regard, there is an authentic narration from Anas Ibn Malik (R.A) in which he states, ‘A man said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, when one of us meets his friend, can he bow/bend to him?’ The messenger of Allah said, ‘No’. (Tirmidhi, Hadith No. 2728). In this tradition, it is evident that the man asked about bowing/bending to another person out of respect or greeting, and the Prophet (S.A.S) informed him that he cannot do that. The hadith therefore, establishes the fact that even if one‘s intention is to greet another or to show respect, it is still prohibited in Islam.

The Kendo arts is permissible, however, bowing is not permissible. If your son is exempted from doing the ‘bow’, then he can go ahead with the Kendo. However, if he is required to do the ‘bow’, then he must refrain from it.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

27/04/17.

Can a child be weaned over 24 months?

Is it haraam to breastfeed a child over the age of 24 months?

Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,

According to the majority of Scholars, the maximum period of breast feeding is 24 months, and it will be haram to breastfeed for more than this period.

However, the great Imam, Abu Hanifa (A.R) holds the opinion that breastfeeding can go up to 30 months and not beyond that. He based his opinion on the verse of the Quran which states, ‘And the bearing of the child and his weaning is thirty (30) months’ (46:15). Many great jurists have accepted this opinion and have given their official verdicts on it. (Al Lubaab Fi Sharh AL Kitaab Vol. 2, Pg. 163, Qadeemi Kutub Khana Karachi; Al Jawharah An Nayarah Vol. 2, Pg. 152 Qadeemi Kutub Khana Karachi).

Hence, it can be said that breastfeeding a child for more than 30 months is unanimously haram. Therefore, all efforts should be made to stop nursing the baby upon the completion of two years. If the baby does not stop and it becomes very difficult upon him, then within the other six months, the mother should slowly ease up on the nursing until she finally ends it upon the completion of 30 months.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

26/04/17.

Can a child be named by other than the fathers name?

I would like to inquire about a situation relating to naming a baby. It is simply to find out if using a hyphenated last name with the father’s last name, followed by the mother’s last name, is haram. The father and mother were married but they got divorced shortly after being married. The father was not around fir the entire pregnancy and only showed up after the baby was born. The mother, who is Muslim, ensured the child is a Muslim, did the relevant rituals and named the child using her last name, since the father was not around. The Father is not a Muslim and carries a Hindu last name. He never converted to Islam.  The mother took Shahadah and is trying to live a decent life as a more devoted Muslim. She understands that a child must carry his father’s last name based on her research, but because she wants the child not to feel awkward in growing up around Muslims, she wants his last name to be hyphenated with the father’s last name followed by the mother’s last name. Please tell me if this is haram or not. The last name will indeed include the father’s last name. But is it forbidden for the child to also carry the mother’s last name?

Assalaamu Alaikum,

The guidance of Islam in this matter is that a child must always be attributed to his real father. He must not be called the son of a certain person if that person is not his real father. Regardless of the name which the child has, it must always be known by the child, family members and others, that he (the child) is the son of such a person (who is the real father). As such, in all legal documents etc. whenever it is asked about the fathers’ name, the child or parent must put the name of the father. The child must not be attributed to any other person instead of his real father.

Once this principle is maintained, then it will not be unlawful or impermissible for you to do what you have asked about in the question. The father’s last name which will be included will also be a means of recognition as to which family the child belongs to, and will identify the child as the son of such and such person. It is not forbidden to also carry the mother’s last name.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

6/04/17

Can In Vitro Pregnancy be permissible in this case?

Assalamu Alaikum,

I’m a university student, currently studying biology and in my study,  I learnt about diseases which are heritable, so that the parents may not have the disease or problem but the children can have a very great chanceof acquiring it. Some of these diseases are so destructive that they can cause babies to die as infants or not survive at all. So there is this procedure where the sex gametes of parents are taken and prepared in a test tube or the like. And then they check if the baby in the test tube will be disease free or not. If it is, then they implant the child into the womb and it grows there. I was just wondering if this procedure is permissible in Islam, especially for those couples who wish for children but don’t want the child to die in infancy or wish for the child to be in pain.

Note: that the chances of a disease free child can be almost 25%. Hence there only one child in four will survive. This can be emotionally and physically hard on parents. Not counting the fact that this is a chance, and sometimes parents can have ten children and all can pass away.

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

الجواب و بالله التوفيق

Some Scholars have allowed In Vitro Pregnancy in extreme cases of necessity when it becomes the last resort for a couple. This allowance is subjected to the  following conditions:

  1. The woman cannot become pregnant at all through the normal/usual way of conjugal union with the husband. This means that if a woman can become pregnant through conjugal union with the husband, then In Vitro Pregnancy will not be allowed.
  2. Where it is allowed, then the sperm must be taken from the husband and the egg to be fertilized must be from the wife.
  3. After the egg is fertilized (with the husband’s sperm), it must be implanted only in the wife’s uterus. It cannot be implanted in the uterus of another woman.

Based on what you have explained, in my humble opinion, In Vitro Pregnancy will not be allowed in the case which you have asked about. The reasons for this are:

  1. It is not evident that the wife is unable to become pregnant through conjugal union with the husband.
  2. The diseases which you have indicated towards may or may not come to the children. This is only a possibility that exists. As you have stated, the parents do not have the disease, therefore, it is not certain that the children may acquire it. Simply, on account of a possibility, the allowance of IVF will not be given.
  3. You have mentioned that if the baby in the test tube is ‘disease free’, then the child will be implanted into the womb of the wife (mother) and it grows there. But what if the baby in the test tube contracted the disease, what will be done to the baby? Will it be destroyed? Will it be left alone to die in the test tube? Will it be discarded? These questions need to be answered. This entire system shows that it is a ‘test run’ that is taking place. Such cannot be done with human lives/babies.

As for the fear of a baby acquiring diseases, research has shown that through In Vitro Fertilization, babies are more prone to contracting diseases. Regarding this, in an article written by Katie Moisse, dated February 23rd 2010 in ‘Scientic America’,  it states, ‘Test tube babies may face greater health risks than natural conceived children – Research shows that children born with the help of reproductive technology might be at a higher risk for genetic defects leading to chromic disorders.’

 

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

2//12/16.

Can I name my son Muhaymin?

Assalsamu Alaikum,

With the grace of Allah I have kept name of my baby boy as MUHAMMAD MUHAYMIN. Kindly help me in telling whether this name is technically correct or not.
Some people saying allays (swt) name i.e.’ Muhaymin cannot be used directly.
Some people saying its Al-Muhaymin which cannot be used directly as it is used exclusively for Allah (swt).

Please help me.

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

الجواب و بالله التوفيق

It is permissible to name your baby boy as Muhaymin. The attribute of Allah is Al Muhaymin which must be used for Allah alone. However, Muhaymin without Al (or Alif and Laam) can be used for others.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

28/10/16.

Is Vitro Fertilization allowed in islam?

Assalumu Alaikum Mufti,

I would like to find out if in vitro fertilization is allowed in Islam.

 

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

الجواب و بالله التوفيق

In vitro fertilization would be allowed in a case of dire necessity when it becomes the last resort for a couple. This allowance will be given when the following conditions are present:

  1. The sperm must be from the husband and the egg to be fertilized must be from his wife.

A woman’s egg cannot be mixed with the sperm of any man except her husband, and a man’s sperm cannot be mixed with the egg of any woman except his wife.

  1. After the egg is fertilised with the husband’s sperm, it must be implanted only in the wife’s uterus. This cannot be implanted in the uterus of any other woman.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

27/1/16.

What are the laws concerning a child that is adopted?

Assalaamu Alaikum

My husband and I are interested in adopting an orphaned girl child. 1) We have three children ages less than 7 yrs. old together and will like to know the rights of our children towards this move. 2) Also could you inform us as to what Islam said on adoption and the rights of an orphan? 3) Will her adoptive brothers and father be her mahram? Also any additional information on adoption would be greatly appreciated.

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

الجواب و بالله التوفيق

Adopting the orphaned girl child is your choice and decision. This is a matter which both of you as husband and wife must decide on. Your children are very young and they do not have any rights towards your intention to adopt the orphan.

Adoption is permissible in Islam, and the Holy Quran has endorsed the adoption of Zaid which was done by the Prophet (SA). However, there are guidelines which one is required to follow in this regard. First of all, an adopted child must not be considered as one’s blood (real) child, it must always be known that the child has been adopted, and that he/she is not blood related to the others within the family. With this, I mean that the child should not be trained to call his adoptive parents as mom and dad, nor should the adoptive parents addressed him as ‘son ‘or ‘daughter’. The usage of these words eventually creates problems and difficulties for all parties. Adoptive parents can be addressed with the words, ‘Uncle, or ‘Aunty’ and the adopted ‘son’ or daughter’ can be called by their respective names.

When the adopted child begins to grow older, you must implement the rules of Hijab/Purda for the opposite sex. This means that if it is an adopted son, then he will not be able to be alone with your grown up daughters, and they must cover their heads/bodies properly in front of him. The mother must also wear her hijab in front of him, since, he is not a mahram to the opposite sex of the family. The same applies to the father and grown up sons in the case of an adopted daughter.

It must also be known that an adopted child will not inherit from the adoptive parents. If they (adoptive parents) wish, they can give him/her gifts while they are alive, and can also leave a will to the limit of 1/3 (of the remaining estate) when they die.

The adoptive parents will also not be able to inherit from an adopted son or daughter (in case of their death). However, the adopted children can give gifts to them while they are alive, and can also leave a will to the limit of 1/3 (of the remaining estate).

Adoptive parents should not conceal their true identity to the adopted children. In other words, they must reveal to them that they are not their real parents, and they are only their adoptive parents or guardians. They must also identify the true/real parents of the children and make them known to the children. In the absence of these, we have seen a lot of problems among family members and adopted children.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.

25/11/15.