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Hadith mentioning the best gift for a child

Assalaamu Alaikum. I would like to know the exact quote that the prophet said about the best gift a parent could bestow to a child is education.

Wa Alaikum Assalaam,

The Hadith is, ‘There is no gift a father gives his child more virtuous than good manners.’ (Tirmidhi Hadith No.4977).

Some translators have translated the hadith as, ‘A father gives his child nothing better than a good education.’ You will find that some translations have the words ‘good manners’ and others have ‘good education’.

The words ‘good manners’ is better since this is the proper translation for the Arabic used in the hadith. The Arabic hadith stated by the Prophet (S.A.S) is:

“‏ مَا نَحَلَ وَالِدٌ وَلده مِنْ نَحْلٍ أَفْضَلَ مِنْ أَدَبٍ حَسَنٍ

‘Maa Nahala Waalidun Waladahu Min Nahlin Afdhala Min Adabin Hasanin.’

The words at the end of the hadith are ‘Adabin Hasanin’, which means ‘good manners’. Therefore, the exact quote and best translation of the hadith is ‘A father has not given a gift to his son/child more virtuous than good manners.’

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.


Playing The Role Of The Opposite Gender In A Skit

Question: Assalamu alaikum
Dear Respected Mufti,

I attend an all girls Muslim school. That being said we, the students are having an upcoming event for which there is a skit where one of the girls would be imitating and well carrying out the role of a boy, that is dressing, walking, talking etc. In my opinion this is incorrect because the rulings of the Shariah strictly prohibits imitating the opposite gender. But my teachers and fellow classmates are saying it’s just a skit. I would really appreciate it if you clarify this issue. Jazak Allah khair.

Answer: Assalaamu Alaikum,

The Ahadith have condemned this type of conduct, and even though it may be just a skit, the prohibition still exists.

While speaking about the prohibition of a woman who imitates a man, the Prophet (s.a.w) said, ‘Allah curses men who imitate women and women who imitate men.’ (Sahih Al Bikhari). In another tradition, the Prophet (s.a.w) said, ‘May Allah curse the masculine woman.’ (Abu Dawood). It means the woman who behaves like a man.

The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) also said, ‘Allah curses a woman who wears men’s clothing and a man who wears a woman’s dress.’ (Abu Dawood).
One should pay attention to the words of the Prophet (s.a.w) and refrain from such conduct.

And Allah Knows best.

Mufti Waseem han.


Claiming Ownership On The Property Of The Spouse

Question: Assalamu Alaikum,

I Have Often Heard The Phrase That In Islam “What Is Hers , Is Hers N What Is His Is Also Hers” Can You Elaborate As To What Exactly This Refers To And If It Is From The Quran Or Hadith. The Part About What Is His Is Hers, What Does That Specifically Mean?

Answer: Wa Alikum As Salaam,

There is no established teaching like that in Islam, and this phrase is not really known and used by Muslims in general.

Regardless of what meaning one may have and understand in using this phrase, the teaching given in Islam is that when a man and a woman become married, then it is not permissible for a man to lay claim over the wealth/property/possessions of his wife, and in a similar manner, it is not permissible for a woman to lay claim over the wealth/property/possessions of her husband. When a man marries a woman, he is required to provide food, clothing and a shelter for her. He becomes the breadwinner of the family and must look after fulfilling the needs and necessities of his wife. In this respect, there is no issue of ‘his and hers’, rather, it is about fulfilling the rights of one another. The husband will be required to fulfil the rights that his wife has over him, and the wife will be required to fulfil the rights that the husband has over her.

During the course of the marital relation, whatever he owns as his personal belongings including wealth and property, will continue to be owned by him, and will be termed as ‘His belongings’. Similarly, whatever the wife owns as her belongings including wealth and property and that which she comes into the marriage with, will be owned by her and will be termed as ‘Her belongings’.

Whatever the husband has given to the wife from what he owns, will be the property of the wife, and whatever the wife gives to the husband from what she owns, will be the property of the husband.
Thus, although they continue to live together as husband and wife, there will be items etc. that will be known as the ‘belongings’ of the wife and the ‘belongings’ of the husband.

If a divorce takes place between the spouses, then whatever belongs to the wife will remain as her property, and the husband will have no claim over it. Likewise, whatever belongs to the husband will remain as his property, and the wife will have no claim over it. It will not be permissible for one to seize, usurp or make a claim over the belongings of another. It is about this situation, the phrase may be used which says, ‘What is hers, is hers, and what is his is his.’ As for the statement, ‘what is his is also hers’, this is wrong, and it does not represent the teachings of Islam.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.


Taking Ownership Of A Found Item

Question: Assalaamu Alaikum,

Can you give me a full explanation towards why it is not allowed to take ownership with a bag of money or any other valuable item that is found lying at the side of the road?


Answer: Wa Alaikum As salaam,

The reason you cannot take ownership of this is because it does not belong to you and you are not its owner. If you see something of value lying on the ground as if it was lost or forgotten by someone, then you are allowed to pick it up and secure it in order to reach it to its owner. This must be your intention for picking it up.

Regarding those items which have been lost by others or dropped from them, the Prophet (s.a.w) has given guidelines regarding what should be done by the person who finds it and picks it up.
In this respect, it is narrated by Zaid bin Khalid Al Juhani that, ‘A Bedouin went to the Prophet (s.a.w) and asked him about picking up a lost thing. The Prophet (s.a.w) said to him, ‘Make a public announcement about it for one year. Remember the description of its container and the string it is tied with, and if someone comes and claims it and describes it correctly, (give it to him), otherwise use it for yourself.’ (Sahih Al Bukhari-Book of lost things picked up by someone).

While commenting on the above Hadith, the scholars have stated that the specification of making an announcement of one year was based on the condition at that time of the Prophet (s.a.w). During that period, a caravan would normally pass through an area once a year. As such, by specifying ‘one year’, it was hoped that if anything was lost or had fallen from the caravan, then in the following year, the caravan would have been able to get it when they pass on the same route again. However, in our times today, one will make an announcement (through the different medias that are available) of the item that he found, and will also do so for a duration that he thinks that is sufficient for the information to reach far and wide during that time. It does not have to be for one year. (Kitabul Fatawa vol. 6 pg. 67 Zam Zam Publishers Karachi 2008).

Based on the traditions of the Prophet (s.a.w) regarding this topic, the Fuqaha (jurist experts) have established the following rules regarding ‘the lost items that are found’:

  1. If a person finds an item on the road, pathway or a public gathering, he is forbidden to pick it up and keep it for himself. Similarly, if he invites some guest to his house for a meal or some other reason and one of the guest leaves some of his personal possessions behind, it is forbidden for him to pick it up and keep it for himself. If he decides to pick it up, he should do so with the intention of looking for its owner and returning it.
  2. If a person finds something and does not pick it up, there will be no sin on him. However, if he finds it at a place where there is the fear that if he does not pick it up, someone else will pick it up and will not return it to its owner, then it becomes Waajib on this person to pick it up and return it to its owner.
  3. Once a person finds a lost item and picks it up, it becomes his responsibility to search for its owner and to return it to him. If he picks it up and replaces it from where he found it or takes it away with him without looking for its owner, he will be committing a sin, irrespective of whether he found it at a safe place where he did not fear it getting lost or he found it at an unsafe place, whether it is wajib for him to pick it up or not. The same rule will apply in both cases, once he picks it up, it becomes wajib upon him to search for its owner and he should not replace it at the place where he found it.
  4. When a person finds an article, he must search for its owner and announce the lost item in all the public places that are frequented by men and women. If a woman cannot go to a gathering in which there are men, she should send her husband or another male to go and announce the item that has been found. The person should clearly announce that he has found a particular item and that the owner should come and claim it. However, he should not mention exactly what he has found so that a cheat does not come and claim it falsely. Instead, he should merely give vague description of it. For example, he must say that he has found some jewellery, clothing or wallet. Once the claimant comes and gives a clear description of that jewellery, clothing or wallet, he should give it to him.
  5. If the person searches extensively for the owner or advertises it properly, and still does not find its owner to such an extent that he has no hope of finding him, he should give that item in charity. If the person is poor himself, he can keep it for his personal use. If the owner comes and claims his item after the person had given it in charity, he (i.e the owner) can demand the value of the lost item as compensation. If he sanctions giving it in charity, he will receive the reward for that.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.


Setting Bush Fires



In Trinidad it is a common practice to set fire to the grass & stubble in the fields during the summer months as a cheap means of clearing the land. Most often this results in a dense cloud of smoke that covers the surrounding area and lingers for hours or even the whole day. This poses a health problem to those living close by. In view of the high incidence of allergies in the nose & eyes as well as asthma in T&T, this becomes very significant. Moreover, the doors & windows have to be kept closed least a thick layer of ash & burnt blades of grass descends on all the furniture & floor.

Does this infringe upon the rights of the neighbors? What is the Islamic ruling on this practice? Does the injunction of ‘amr bil maaruf va nahiya bil munkar’ apply here?

في امان الله



Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

Yes, this infringes on the rights of the neighbor. This act of setting fire to grass etc. causes a great amount of harms to neighbors and all those who are in the area, and is totally prohibited in Islam.

Those who are involved in this should be spoken to. If they do not desist, then the relevant authorities should be informed and official reports should be made to the police or fire officers. At the same time, if one has the ability (without endangering oneself) to stop the fire from spreading, then he should do so.

Generally, Islam has given a strict prohibition on doing such things that bring about harm to others.

And Allah knows best,

Mufti Waseem Khan


Profile Pictures On WhatsApp




On whatsapp, which is an instant messaging service for smartphones, people can post a profile for themselves. Many people post a photograph of themselves, other people or other animate objects.

Is this permissible? Please explain.



Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

‘Taking-out’ pictures and having photographs of oneself and others, and having pictures of animate objects displayed in this manner, is not permissible.

All these fall under the general prohibition which the Shariah has mentioned regarding photography and pictures of animate objects.

And Allah knows best,

Mufti Waseem Khan


Explanation Of The Prohibition Of Wearing Gold And Red Colours For Males

Question: Asalam Alaikum, Gold and the colour red- its not permissible for Muslim men to wear can you give an explanation.

Answer: Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

The Ahadith of the Prophet (s.a.w) clearly state that gold is haram for Muslim men to wear. Hence, it is not permissible. In the Shariah, it has been made as a means of adornment and beautification for women, not for men.

In a narration recorded by Abu Dawood, An Nasa’I and Ibn Majah, Ali (R.A) narrates that the prophet (s.a.w) took a piece of silk and held it in his right hand and took gold and held it in his left hand. While holding these, he said, ‘Both of these are haram for the males of my Ummah.’

With respect to red clothing for males, it is mentioned in certain traditions that it is prohibited. Regarding this, it is narrated from Abdullah bin Abbas (R.A) that he said, ‘I was forbidden to wear red garments and gold rings, and to recite the Quran in Ruku’ (An Nasa’I # 5171).
Another hadith narrated from Abdullah bin Umar (R.A) states that he said, ‘A man passed by the Prophet (s.a.w) wearing two red garments and greeted him with salaam, but he (the Prophet (s.a.w)) did not return the greeting.’ (Tirmidhi # 2731).

While these traditions show the prohibition of males wearing red clothing, there are other traditions which are recorded in the books of ahadith, and about which some scholars have stated that some level of allowance is evident. In this regard, it is narrated that Hilaal bin Amr relates from his father who said, ‘I saw the Messenger of Allah in Mina, giving a Khutba sitting on his mule while wearing a red cloak. (Abu Dawwod # 3551).
Similarly, Bara bin Aazib (R.A) states, ‘The Messenger of Allah was of average build, I saw him in a red suite (two pieces of garments), and I never saw anyone more handsome than him.’ (Bukhari # 5400).

Based on these different traditions, the Fuqaha (jurists) and Muhaditheen (traditionalists) have adopted different positions. Some have considered it allowed and permissible and others have considered it reprehensible and detested. Many scholars have reconciled between the ahadith and stated that the traditions which mention that the Prophet (s.a.w) prohibited it, shows that it is best that males should not wear red clothing and that it is detestable. Other traditions which mention that the Prophet (s.a.w) wore these, shows that there is an allowance for doing so, although not the best.

The scholars have also stated that the red suite that the Prophet (s.a.w) wore was that of two Yemeni garments which were not completely/entirely red. Instead, these were woven with red and black stripes, or red and green stripes. It is described as red because of the red stripes in it. This goes to show that those who are of the opinion that it is allowed to wear red, they state that this means that the entire garment should not be red (for males). If it is mixed with red, like red-stripes etc. and is of another color, it will be allowed. However, in this case, the scholars have stated that if it is done to imitate the females or non Muslims, then it will be reprehensible.

And Allah Knows best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.


Rulings Of Bazaars, Family Days And Sports Day When Done For Raising Funds For Masjids


Assalamu alaikum Respected Mufti Sahib.

Various Masjids have family days, sports days and bazaars, sometimes these are done for fund raising and sometimes just for fun and creating unity. Are these family day, sport days, bazaars etc. permissible? If not please explain why not.


Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

There is no harm in having such activities which are meant to bring about unity and togetherness etc. However, these must all be in accordance to what Islam allows. If there are prohibited elements in any activity, then it will not be allowed. Hence, in these activities, there should be no open mixing and mingling of males and females.

They should be separate from each other. So, in the case of family days, sport days and bazaars, there must be a section/area for the males alone, and one for the females. In this case, women will also feel more comfortable with such privacy. In the case of sports and games, one’s Awrah (concealable parts of the body) must not be exposed. Therefore, if the males are involved in the game of football, they must ensure that they wear ‘shorts’ that properly cover the area from the navel to the knees.

With respect to the women also, they must dress appropriately even though they are among their own selves. They must not wear tight fitted clothing, nor thin clothing. They must not behave as the non Muslims do in the different activities they may get involved in.

With respect to bazaars etc; it is seen that sometimes ‘games of chance’ are included for fun. These should not be there. Muslims must also ensure that there is no music at such activities.

In short, once the teachings of Islam are adhered to, and these activities do not involve things that are haram, then they will be allowed.

And Allah Knows Best.

Mufti Waseem Khan.


Ruling Of Dancing As An Occupation And Using Earnings From Such For Islamic Duties


As-Salamu Alaykum.

I am a boy and i dance only on instrumental music only and my form of dancing is waving,popping and stunts,etc and it does not contain any vulgar and obscene dance moves and it is just simple movement of hands and legs and i am a solo dancer so there is no mingling of sexes involved in question is
(1)if i earn through dancing, will ALL of my earning be considered haram?
(2)if i give zakah and go hajj with that earning, will my zakah and hajj be accepted by allah?
please answer me

.jazakallah khair


Wa Alaikum As Salaam

Dancing is totally haram in Islam, hence, the earnings will also be deemed unlawful.

Since this is considered to be haram earnings, you must not give this in zakah, nor should you use it to go for Hajj. Allah does not accept things that are unlawful.

In the case of Zakah, you cannot give it on haram earnings or from haram earnings. All monies earned from a haram income must be given to the poor and needy.

If you use this money to go for Hajj, the Ahadith have clearly stated that ‘Allah does not accept a hajj which is done with haram monies’. Based upon this, some scholars have stated that in this case, one’s hajj will not be accepted and he will have to do it over with halal monies. Some scholars have also stated that one’s hajj will not be accepted In the sense that one will get no rewards for this hajj, but the obligation of hajj may be lifted.

And Allah Knows Best

Mufti Waseem Khan